3 Habits to Start NOW

Can you believe that the year is almost done? Me either! It seems to fly by so fast. We know on New Years Eve everyone will start setting their New Year Resolutions. This is where things start to get a little crazy.

As much as I believe Resolutions are fantastic how many times do people really stick to them? Not very often. That’s because we think we need to make all the changes at once. Then we get overwhelmed after a couple of weeks with doing it all at once and give up.

I want to share 3 habits you can start implementing now so the New Year isn’t so daunting.

Morning Routine

When you get up in the morning do you immediately go for your phone and check everything? This one is for you! I use to be like that too and it made me a stress case. Instead of slowly easing into my morning and giving myself time to wake up I was immediately starting on other people’s agendas. Not anymore!

Here are few things that help me start my day off right:

  • Wake up with plenty of time to  get ready ESPECIALLY if you have kids
  • Try waking up within an hour of the same time every day
  • Give yourself at  least 15 minutes before you pick up your phone or open your computer.
  • During those 15 minutes do something to focus on you. Ex: meditation, journal, affirmations, etc…

Make this time to priority every morning and don’t forget your morning starts the night before with a good night sleep. You can start small with 15 minutes and gradually increase it to 30 minutes or more over time.

Weekly Activity

Every year I see a ton of resolutions about weight loss and getting fit. Why wait  to start focusing on your health? You don’t need to go from zero to hero over night. If you wait until the New Year you will feel pressured to go all in versus starting slow right now. Plus we all could use a little activity to burn off those holiday cookies.

Here are a few things that might help:

  • Start Slow. Not working out currently? Make it a point to get in three times a week instead of shooting for all seven immediately.
  • Find Something You Enjoy or At Least Tolerate. I am not telling you to do Crossfit if that’s not your thing. You can start with just walking if your not currently doing anything else.
  • Get an Accountability Buddy. You can exercise together or just check on each other to be sure your staying on track.
  • Slowly Progress to More Days, Higher Intensity, or Longer Workouts. Don’t feel like you have to do it all today.

Reduce the overwhelm and chance that you will give up later by starting now. Little steps over time add up. By starting now you will be in a routine of regular activity when New Year hits . Yay you!

Plan Out Your Week

Not planning out our week is like taking a road trip to a new place without a map. We will drive aimlessly, following signs and hoping it gets us to the right place. With directions we can make it to our destination faster and with less confusion. The same thing goes  for planning out our week. Without a plan we just aimlessly go through our week hoping we will remember everything we need to do and get it all done.

How can you plan out your week? These tips will help:

  • Brain Dump. Take 5-10 minutes before the week begins to write down everything that you can think of that needs to be done whether that week or in the future.
  • What need to be done this week? Write out the items from your brain dump that absolutely have to be done this week.
  • Create a Schedule. You can write it out, use a planner, create something on your phone or computer. No matter what you choose make sure to plan out each day of the week.
  • Don’t over schedule. Leave room for the unexpected to happen.

It may seem tedious to create a  schedule for your week every week. trust me it’s worth it. The more consistent you are doing this the more productive you will be. You will eventually find yourself getting more accomplished in less time.

Remember creating these habits doesn’t have to be an overnight process. Consistency is the key. Get started now and you will be well on your way to totally rocking your New Year.

XoXo

Megan

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5 Things Being a Military Spouse Taught Me About Relationships

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The relationships in our life are important not only for us to survive but to thrive. Being a military spouse has put more of a spotlight on my relationships. Before becoming a military spouse everyone I was close to lived near me. I took for granted the relationships I had and didn’t truly nurture them because I didn’t think I had to.

Here are five lesson I have learned about relationships from being a military spouse:

Healthy Communication is KEY

Being open and honest with those in our lives is so important. When we bottle things up inside instead of expressing them they come bubbling to the surface and often in a not so healthy way later on. By expressing ourselves and how we feel we clear up any assumptions we might have about a situation or relationship. We also give those around us the permission to express themselves as well.

When my husband is out to sea our communication is limited. I’ve found it’s better to have an open conversation before he leaves vs bottling it up and driving myself crazy about whatever it is while he is gone. When I opt for the second option it never ends well. By being open and honest in the first place I save myself stress and give myself a peace of mind.

Lack of communication has cost me some dear friendships. If one or both of us had just said this is what’s bothering me then those friendships may have been salvaged. I have learned close friendships are very valuable and much needed but cannot survive without Healthy Communication.

Relationships of ANY Kind Take Work

Relationships are hard. We can’t completely forget about our bff for six months and expect that friendship to stay the same. We also can’t just not be there for our spouse for months on end and expect our marriage to stay the same.

Being in any relationship requires a little selflessness. It requires caring about not just our own needs but the needs of the other person as well. It’s not 50/50, sometimes it means giving 100% knowing that it will come back to you in the future.

Now I am not saying relationships should be exhausting and stressful or that they can’t just go seamlessly along. In order to make a relationship thrive we have to be prepared that sometimes it’s going to take a bit of work. We are two completely unique individuals so it will not always be perfect.

Distance Does Not Mean The End

Being a military spouse means I have experienced distance in all of my relationships. I am distanced from my family. I am distanced from some of my friends. I am often distanced from my spouse.

Distance does not mean the end of a relationship. It doesn’t mean things have to change. It just means we have to be mindful about how things might be different. We also need to be mindful of how to communicate when apart. Again you can’t go six months without talking to your bff and expect that relationship to stay the same.

Thank goodness for the powers of technology  because we are capable of communicating with everyone in some way. Distance does mean we will need to be more aware of staying in communication with the people in our lives. Don’t let your relationships turn into some likes on Facebook because of distance.

Relationships of All Kind Are Important

We truly need a variety of relationships in order thrive. One person cannot be expected to fill all of our needs. Having relationships that fill different needs is important. I can’t expect my spouse to be everything to me, that’s just way to much pressure for one person.

As a military spouse I have experienced extended periods of time away from my spouse. Having other people in my life that could be there for me has been so crucial. We all need people we can turn to that will help fill our bucket and lift us up.  That cannot just be the job of one person.

Some Things Aren’t Worth It

When it comes to relationships some things just aren’t worth it. Somethings don’t need to be said. Some relationships just don’t need to contunue on. We need to be aware when some things aren’t worth it.

If something will cause more pain than it will joy is it really worth it? Probably not.  If a relationship is causing nothing but stress and is no longer filing your bucket is it really worth it? Probably not. If we are saying things out of hate and anger vs trying to work things out is it

When my husband is deployed 95% of the time I can only communicate with him via unreliable, no attachments allowed, email. Being that we have such limited communication somethings just aren’t worth bringing up. Does he really need to know I drank a bottle of wine and cried my eyes out because I missed him so much? Probably not.

Relationships are crucial for us to thrive in life. Cherish them, nurture them, and if they refuse to grow with you then prune them. Come from a place of kindness and love. Relationships are a two way street. You got this!

Need help finding your tribe? Don’t forget to check out my blog post on How to Attract Your Tribe

YOU ARE ENOUGH,

Megan

Strengthening Your Mommy Mindset

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Being a mom is f*&%ing tough. Literally as I type this I am hiding in my bedroom drinking wine because I needed a break from my children fighting after they all stayed home sick from school today. Were they really sick? Who knows! I was too tired to even second guess it.

There are days I scream profanities and just want to pack my bags. Then there are days I feel all ooey gooey inside just thinking of their precious faces. Being a mom can really mess with our minds. That’s why strengthening our mindset is so important. I cannot stress that enough.

Let’s get one thing out of the way real quick before I dive into my tips for strengthening your mommy mindset. There is no perfect mom. Don’t even try to be it because it doesn’t exist. We are all messing our kids up a little bit every day. That’s ok because we are learning, our parents weren’t perfect either.

Here are a few tips to help you on your journey through mommy hood

Find What Works Best For You

I said it before there is no perfect parent. Every mom, family, child, etc.. is different which makes it impossible for there to be a perfect parent. What works for one doesn’t work for all. That’s alright because all you have to do is find what works best for you and your family.

That might take a little trial and error. The first child might be easy peasy then the next one could be a complete wild child. Totally happened to me. Then I had twins on top of those two! Each twin is completely different, one is a stubborn, sassy tiny girl and the other is a sweet, sensitive boy. All four of my kiddos are completely different!

What really matters is what you decide works for your family. Be flexible but don’t let other people make those decisions for you. Remember these are your kids.

Take Care of Yourself

You can’t pour from an empty cup. When you are constantly taking care of kids and not taking care of yourself it takes a toll. Trust me I’ve been there. Then our bodies decide if we don’t want to take care of ourselves that’s fine because we are just going to get sick. We all know moms don’t get sick days so let’s try to avoid that option.

When we feel like crap we get cranky. When we are cranky we take it out on the kids. Then we feel guilty for losing it on them. Then we beat ourselves up which in turn reduces our self care. Stop the cycle already! I understand not having a lot of time but as little as 1 hour a day for self care can make a HUGE difference.

Need some help? Check out my posts on Health.

Get Support

We are just silly think we need to do this all alone. I am not saying have other people raise your kids but having people to lend a hand in some way is crucial. This could be a girlfriend who will come over to chat when you need to. This could be a sitter who will give you a break from the kids when you need it. This could be a family member you go to for advice. Literally the options of support are endless. Key is we don’t have to do it alone.

For me I love having a mix of mommy friends and non mommy friends. They all serve a different purpose. Sometimes I just want to get together and not talk about kids at all. Sometimes I want to chat with others who get it. Sometimes I don’t care either way and just want to have fun. Find the friends that serve different purposes for you.

You can view my blog post on How to Attract Your Tribe.for more tips on how to find your people.

All in all momma you got this. If you’re authentic to yourself, take care of yourself, and have some support to back you up then you will do just fine. Don’t be afraid to take classes, read books, or even see a counselor to help guide you when it comes to parenting. There is no shame in continuing to learn because we are all perfectly imperfect. Count that as your personal development.

Remember YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!!

XoXo

Megan