When I was a stay at home mom I frequently found myself burnt out and exhausted. I blamed my exhaustion on everyone and everything. The problem wasn’t everything going on in my life, the problem was me.
Why was it me? I never took anytime for myself. I was plagued with guilt every time I even attempted to get in some me time. When my husband would encourage me to go visit my friends and family to get a break while he stayed home with our four kids I would call him every hour on the hour just to be sure everything was ok.
I didn’t realize that I NEEDED to take time for myself so I had the energy to give to other people in my life. The blame I placed on everyone and everything else was damaging my relationships with those around me. My marriage became strained because I was cranky and exhausted. I constantly snapped on my kids because I was so stressed out.
I struggled with depression most of my life. My lack of self care catapulted me into one of the deepest depressions I had ever experienced. Which left me crying in my bathroom shower wanting to end my life. I thought my family would be much better off without me. I felt useless and empty inside.
What did I learn from being exhausted, depressed, and empty?
- We need to focus on total body health. That means the mental, the physical, and the emotional health.
- Self Care is not one size fits all. What works for our mom, sister or best friend may not work for us. We need to find what works best for us.
- We are meant to feel good. If we don’t feel good something is wrong and needs to change.
- Self Care is not selfish it’s necessary.
- We need to make time for ourselves on a consistent, daily basis in order to thrive.
There’s not many times I wish I could go back in time because I fear the butterfly effect. One thing I wish I could share with my younger self is to make more time for Self Care. When we feel like crap our relationships suffer, our business suffers, and we suffer too. I did way to much unnecessary suffering.
If you struggle to make time for yourself I invite you to join the Prioritize You Challenge. In 21 days I will help you go from exhausted to energized. Remember you can’t pour from an empty cup.