Boundary Basics

Boundary Basics, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

You may or may not have heard the terms boundaries. A boundary is an often unspoken rule protecting your energetic space. Many boundaries almost seem like common sense ex: don’t grab a strangers ass. Other boundaries can vary person by person and situation by situation.  What may be acceptable to one person in one type of  situation may not be acceptable to another person.

Boundaries are necessary in order to maintain good physical, mental and emotional health. They come in all forms from physical boundaries to social media boundaries to boundaries around your time and everything in between. Many times we hesitate to set or maintain our boundaries because we are so scared of how others might react. It’s imperative that we do it anyways.

Here Are Some Boundary Basics

1) Ask yourself what actions/words are acceptable and not acceptable to you. 

2) Allow some variance in your boundaries depending on your relationship with someone. What’s acceptable for your spouse won’t always be for a stranger. 

3) Speak up when someone violates your boundaries. You can say “That was no ok. Please don’t do it again.”

4) Do not apologize for setting a boundary with someone. It’s your right to protect your space. 

5) Reevaluate your boundaries every once in awhile. As we change our boundaries can too. 

Boundaries are not a way to keep people out but are a way to protect ourselves. Think of this less like a wall and more like a fence with a gate. It is all about protecting our energetic space. How we go about this is up to us as individuals and not up to other people. Don’t let others dictate what your boundaries should or should not be.

If you want more information about boundaries tune into The Inspired Women Podcast or check out these articles on Creating Boundaries & What’s in Your Space. Remember you are brave, you are beautiful, you are amazing, and YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

 

5 Important Aspects of Positive Communication

5 Important Aspects of Positive Communication, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

Let’s be honest in today’s world positive communication is lacking. When we state our personal opinion we are opening ourselves up for an attack on our character. We seem to struggle to communicate effectively on and offline with other people with differing opinions. The thought process seems to be if you don’t agree with me you are the enemy. That’s simply not true.

Communication is a key factor to the success or failure of our relationships. Poor communication can cause relationships to fall apart. Many of the people we are in relationships with, from friends to clients to spouses to co workers, have different opinions than us. That’s ok and healthy even. How we handle those differing opinions is crucial.

5 important aspects of positive communication

1) Speak your opinion without bashing someone’s character. Ex: I think we need nationwide gun laws VS anyone who isn’t for nationwide gun laws are psychopaths.

2) Be willing to listen to someone else to actually hear them instead listening to trying to come up with a response.

3) Have an open mind. There’s no way to communicate with someone else if we aren’t open to hearing a differing opinion. 

4) Allow the other person an opportunity to speak. Communication is a two way street. 

5) Don’t feed into the negativity. If someone else isn’t willing to have an open conversation walk away or change the subject. 

Diversity is the spice of life. The world would be so boring if we all just agreed and went along with the status quo. That’s where groupthink starts. Nothing is accomplished with groupthink because there is no one to challenge the group. Diversity breeds innovation and creativity. It allows us to learn and grow.

Positive communication doesn’t have to be complex but it does take two people. We can only control our end of the conversation, we cannot control others. When someone challenges our opinions is makes us uncomfortable. Our first inclination might be to get defensive but in order to truly communicate we have to listen. Listening does not equal agreeing or even changing our opinion but being open minded to differing opinions.

The world needs more positive communication in it. The internet has given us this platform to sometimes say things we wouldn’t dare to say in person. We can’t assume to know someone’s intention without having a conversation with them. Let’s go forth with an open mind and a listening ear.

Remember you are brave, you are strong, you are beautiful, and YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

 

 

What I Learned From Being Clinically Depressed

Clinically Depressed, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

Why is positivity so important to me? It’s because I know what it’s like to be negative. Towards the end of 2013 after a failed suicide attempt a doctor diagnosed me as clinically depressed. Nothing like being slapped with a  label to make you not be so positive. Most of my life I had experienced depression even from a very young age. Yet I was a pretty positive child.

Since being diagnosed over 4+ years I have learned many ways to cope with my depression. I’ve learned to be more mindful of how I’m feeling. Also I’ve learned to be more mindful about who I allow in my space. Even though I’m diagnosed as clinically depressed I don’ think that it has to be a part of my life forever. I can choose to do things to diminish it’s effects on me.

What I Learned From Being Clinically Depressed

1) It’s just a diagnosis not a life sentence. 

2) Taking care of myself is the most important thing I need to do.

3) Consistently negative people can trigger my depression. 

4) Healing takes time and the more I heal the less depressed I am.

5) A positive person can experience depression. 

Many of the things I do to help me diminish the effects of depression on me are the same things that have helped me build a more positive mindset. It all starts in the mind which is a fascinating complex thing. Only 50% of who we are is genes, the other 50% is our experiences. That means my genetics only are responsible for about 50% of my depression. The other 50% is how the experiences of my life shaped me.

That to me is fantastic news because it truly proves that being diagnosed with clinical depression is not a life sentence. I can, with time and hard work, overcome this diagnosis. Can I “cure” myself? No but I may go extended periods of time without ever experiencing depression. That’s like music to my ears.

If the label slapped on you is clinically depressed or negative or anything else know you can overcome this. It might take time. It might take hard work. You might even need professional help but you can do this! Remember you are brave, you are beautiful, you are amazing, and YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

 

 

How To Cultivate A More Positive Mindset Module 2

Module 2: Protecting Your Space

Congratulations on making it to module 2 of the How To Cultivate A More Positive Mindset Mini Course. In the video below you will learn how to mindful of what’s in your space. Below is the video and audio option as well as your downloadable worksheet.

If audio is more your jam check out the audio recording of the video below….

Don’t forget to download your Owning Your Space Worksheet to use along with the tips in this module.

You can listen to the podcast episode I mention in this module below…

Congratulations on making it through module 2 when you’re ready you can move onto module 3.

If you have any questions or feedback please email me megan@meganhallinspired.com or join us in The Inspired Women Community.

How To Cultivate A More Positive Mindset Module 3

Module 3: Take Control

Congratulations on making it to module 3 of the How To Cultivate A More Positive Mindset Mini Course. In the video below you will learn how to take control of the “uncontrollable”. Below is the video and audio option as well as your downloadable worksheet.

* I believe in authenticity so instead of editing this video completely I left the bloopers in*

If audio is more your jam check out the audio recording of the video below….

Don’t forget to download your Take Control Worksheet to use along with the tips in this module.

Congratulations on making it through module 3 when you’re ready you can move onto module 4.

If you have any questions or feedback please email me megan@meganhallinspired.com or join us in The Inspired Women Community.

How To Cultivate A More Positive Mindset Module 4

Module 4: Self Care

Congratulations on making it to module 4 of the How To Cultivate A More Positive Mindset Mini Course. In the video below you will learn about self care. Below is the video and audio option as well as your downloadable worksheets.

If audio is more your jam check out the audio recording of the video below….

Don’t forget to download your Self Care Brain Dump Worksheet & I love me Worksheet to use along with the tips in this module.

The tools I mentioned in the video are Gaia.com & Sleep Smarter.

Congratulations on making it through module 4 when you’re ready you can move onto module 5.

If you have any questions or feedback please email me megan@meganhallinspired.com or join us in The Inspired Women Community.

How To Cultivate A More Positive Mindset Module 5

Module 5: Focus, Gratitude, Get & Solutions

Congratulations on making it to module 5 of the How To Cultivate A More Positive Mindset Mini Course. In the video below you will learn some important pieces to cultivating a more positive mindset. Below is the video and audio option as well as your downloadable worksheet.

If audio is more your jam check out the audio recording of the video below….

Don’t forget to download your  Gratitude Worksheet to use along with the tips in this module.

Congratulations on making it through module 5 when you’re ready you can move onto module 6.

If you have any questions or feedback please email me megan@meganhallinspired.com or join us in The Inspired Women Community.

How To Cultivate A More Positive Mindset Module 6

Module 6: Do’s, Don’ts & Grace

Congratulations on making it to module 6 of the How To Cultivate A More Positive Mindset Mini Course. In the video below you will learn some do’s & don’ts around cultivating a more positive mindset. Below is the video and audio option as well as your downloadable worksheet.

If audio is more your jam check out the audio recording of the video below….

Don’t forget to download your Go To Worksheet to use along with the tips in this module.

Congratulations on completing the How to Cultivate A More Positive Mindset Mini Course. Way to go committing  your time to this course. Now go forth and implement. You will have lifetime access to this course so feel free to revisit at anytime.

If you have any questions or feedback please email me megan@meganhallinspired.com or join us in The Inspired Women Community.

How To Cultivate A More Positive Mindset Module 1

Module 1: Three Step RE-FRAME

Congratulations on making it to module 1 of the How To Cultivate A More Positive Mindset Mini Course. In the video below you will learn 3 steps to re-framing your negative thoughts. Below is the video and audio option as well as your downloadable worksheet.

If audio is more your jam check out the audio recording of the video below….

Don’t forget to download your Reframe Worksheet to use along with the tips in this module.

Congratulations on making it through module 1 when you’re ready you can move onto module 2.

If you have any questions or feedback please email me megan@meganhallinspired.com or join us in The Inspired Women Community.

5 Things That Could Be Tearing Your Relationship Apart

5 things that could be tearing your relationship apart, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

My husband and I celebrated our 7 year anniversary in December. I wish I could say that marriage has been easy or even fun.  To be honest it’s been hard. Some days I want to walk away from it all. So why I am still married? Because the positive aspects are so amazing that they overshadow the negative aspects.

I had no idea what I was getting myself into when I married my husband. He’s a US Navy sailor and as much as he tried to prepare me for military life there’s no way of understanding until you’re in it. I also believed that being married would make all the bad in my life go away. As if marriage was a magical wand that could bippity boppity boo me whole and healed. It didn’t work like that and I was totally unprepared to be there for another human going through their own shit.

Over the years though I have learned a thing or two about marriage. In no way, shape, or form am I an expert. Marriage is so complex I may never fully understand it. There are a few things that I’ve seen tear my own relationship apart and those are things worth sharing. Maybe it will save you a few struggles too.

5 Things That could be tearing your relationship Apart

1) Dishonesty. Dishonesty of any kind whether seemingly insignificant or really big can poke holes in your marriage. 

2) Expecting your spouse to be everything to you. Like be my best friend, my spouse, my therapist, my ATM, etc…. Fulfilling all the roles.

3) Putting their needs above your own. This seems counter intuitive but if you aren’t taking care of yourself you are giving them a second rate version of you.

4) Not having any independence. Not only does this go back to #3 but being around one person 24/7 is ALOT for anyone to handle. 

5) Using them as your emotional dumping ground. Check out this episode of The Inspired Women Podcast.  

Marriage can be such a wonderful experience. Having someone who is there to support you through the good times and the bad is magical. We can’t lose ourselves in the process of marriage though. That leads to resentment and each of us becoming half rate versions of ourselves. Is that really how we want to live our lives? I don’t.  I want marriage to make me a better person.

Remember a relationship is a two way street. We cannot have a marriage without the other person putting in their effort as well. You are only in control of your actions, words, and reactions.  The other person has to be in control of theirs as well. There can be hard times but there can be really amazing times too if both people are willing to put in the effort to make it work.

If you would like more resources on relationships check these articles out. How a Deployment Saved My MarriageWhat Relationships Are Not5 Ways To Cultivate Positive Relationships & 5 Things Being A Military Spouse Taught Me About Relationships.

Remember you are amazing, you are beautiful, you are brave, & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall