How much time do you have?
As far back as I can remember I struggle with the belief in myself. Let’s start with right before I found myself homeless. Yes I was homeless for all of a day before my sister and mom bailed me out. Right before that I was living on welfare, a stay at home mom, no car, no license, and in a very toxic relationship with an addict.
How did I end up in this situation? Because I didn’t believe I could change it. I thought this is my life and this is how it’s always going to be. It wasn’t until one night where I got chairs thrown at my head that a tiny spark of belief ignited. It wasn’t that I could change my situation it was I needed to. That’s where I found myself homeless, jobless, licenseless, with two small children to care for. Super Scary!!!
My lack of belief landed me working at Burger Kind long hours just to make ends meet. Living on welfare and with my sister. I didn’t believe I was worthy of any job better than Burger King. I was a college drop out who had her license revoked because of a DWAI. Why would anyone want to hire me? At least that was my belief.
Fast forward three years to when I found myself bawling in my shower telling my husband now I didn’t want to live anymore. I BELIEVED that he and my children would be better off without me. I believe that I was worthless. Thanks to my self esteem demolishing previous relationship. I was a shell of a person with little belief in myself.
Only two years later I started my Beachbody business which if my belief in myself was shaky before this rocked my world but it also helped cultivate belief. At first I couldn’t believe I could help anyone. Then the more I put myself out there the more people wanted to work with me. It was absolutely mind blowing for a disbeliever like me. My belief started to evolve. It grew… I grew. Life changed.
Lucky for me and for you belief can be learned and cultivated. It may have taken a couple years and a lot of work but my belief in myself is 100 times better. There are a few things that helped me, I hope they will help you too.
- I focused on little “wins”. Every positive comment, Every person I helped was a small win.
- I opened up to the world and allowed people into my life. I could see I was worthy.
- I surrounded myself with people who believed in me. They lifted me up.
- I worked on my positive mindset. Mindset it key!
- Finally I asked.. “why can’t I?”. I could.
The answer is You can too! You have to believe. It won’t happen overnight so be patient. Just take it one day at a time, one step at a time. Focus on your little wins and ignite your belief.
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