5 Important Aspects of Positive Communication

5 Important Aspects of Positive Communication, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

Let’s be honest in today’s world positive communication is lacking. When we state our personal opinion we are opening ourselves up for an attack on our character. We seem to struggle to communicate effectively on and offline with other people with differing opinions. The thought process seems to be if you don’t agree with me you are the enemy. That’s simply not true.

Communication is a key factor to the success or failure of our relationships. Poor communication can cause relationships to fall apart. Many of the people we are in relationships with, from friends to clients to spouses to co workers, have different opinions than us. That’s ok and healthy even. How we handle those differing opinions is crucial.

5 important aspects of positive communication

1) Speak your opinion without bashing someone’s character. Ex: I think we need nationwide gun laws VS anyone who isn’t for nationwide gun laws are psychopaths.

2) Be willing to listen to someone else to actually hear them instead listening to trying to come up with a response.

3) Have an open mind. There’s no way to communicate with someone else if we aren’t open to hearing a differing opinion. 

4) Allow the other person an opportunity to speak. Communication is a two way street. 

5) Don’t feed into the negativity. If someone else isn’t willing to have an open conversation walk away or change the subject. 

Diversity is the spice of life. The world would be so boring if we all just agreed and went along with the status quo. That’s where groupthink starts. Nothing is accomplished with groupthink because there is no one to challenge the group. Diversity breeds innovation and creativity. It allows us to learn and grow.

Positive communication doesn’t have to be complex but it does take two people. We can only control our end of the conversation, we cannot control others. When someone challenges our opinions is makes us uncomfortable. Our first inclination might be to get defensive but in order to truly communicate we have to listen. Listening does not equal agreeing or even changing our opinion but being open minded to differing opinions.

The world needs more positive communication in it. The internet has given us this platform to sometimes say things we wouldn’t dare to say in person. We can’t assume to know someone’s intention without having a conversation with them. Let’s go forth with an open mind and a listening ear.

Remember you are brave, you are strong, you are beautiful, and YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!


Megan Hall



What I Learned From Being Clinically Depressed

Clinically Depressed, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

Why is positivity so important to me? It’s because I know what it’s like to be negative. Towards the end of 2013 after a failed suicide attempt a doctor diagnosed me as clinically depressed. Nothing like being slapped with a  label to make you not be so positive. Most of my life I had experienced depression even from a very young age. Yet I was a pretty positive child.

Since being diagnosed over 4+ years I have learned many ways to cope with my depression. I’ve learned to be more mindful of how I’m feeling. Also I’ve learned to be more mindful about who I allow in my space. Even though I’m diagnosed as clinically depressed I don’ think that it has to be a part of my life forever. I can choose to do things to diminish it’s effects on me.

What I Learned From Being Clinically Depressed

1) It’s just a diagnosis not a life sentence. 

2) Taking care of myself is the most important thing I need to do.

3) Consistently negative people can trigger my depression. 

4) Healing takes time and the more I heal the less depressed I am.

5) A positive person can experience depression. 

Many of the things I do to help me diminish the effects of depression on me are the same things that have helped me build a more positive mindset. It all starts in the mind which is a fascinating complex thing. Only 50% of who we are is genes, the other 50% is our experiences. That means my genetics only are responsible for about 50% of my depression. The other 50% is how the experiences of my life shaped me.

That to me is fantastic news because it truly proves that being diagnosed with clinical depression is not a life sentence. I can, with time and hard work, overcome this diagnosis. Can I “cure” myself? No but I may go extended periods of time without ever experiencing depression. That’s like music to my ears.

If the label slapped on you is clinically depressed or negative or anything else know you can overcome this. It might take time. It might take hard work. You might even need professional help but you can do this! Remember you are brave, you are beautiful, you are amazing, and YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!


Megan Hall



5 Things That Could Be Tearing Your Relationship Apart

5 things that could be tearing your relationship apart, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

My husband and I celebrated our 7 year anniversary in December. I wish I could say that marriage has been easy or even fun.  To be honest it’s been hard. Some days I want to walk away from it all. So why I am still married? Because the positive aspects are so amazing that they overshadow the negative aspects.

I had no idea what I was getting myself into when I married my husband. He’s a US Navy sailor and as much as he tried to prepare me for military life there’s no way of understanding until you’re in it. I also believed that being married would make all the bad in my life go away. As if marriage was a magical wand that could bippity boppity boo me whole and healed. It didn’t work like that and I was totally unprepared to be there for another human going through their own shit.

Over the years though I have learned a thing or two about marriage. In no way, shape, or form am I an expert. Marriage is so complex I may never fully understand it. There are a few things that I’ve seen tear my own relationship apart and those are things worth sharing. Maybe it will save you a few struggles too.

5 Things That could be tearing your relationship Apart

1) Dishonesty. Dishonesty of any kind whether seemingly insignificant or really big can poke holes in your marriage. 

2) Expecting your spouse to be everything to you. Like be my best friend, my spouse, my therapist, my ATM, etc…. Fulfilling all the roles.

3) Putting their needs above your own. This seems counter intuitive but if you aren’t taking care of yourself you are giving them a second rate version of you.

4) Not having any independence. Not only does this go back to #3 but being around one person 24/7 is ALOT for anyone to handle. 

5) Using them as your emotional dumping ground. Check out this episode of The Inspired Women Podcast.  

Marriage can be such a wonderful experience. Having someone who is there to support you through the good times and the bad is magical. We can’t lose ourselves in the process of marriage though. That leads to resentment and each of us becoming half rate versions of ourselves. Is that really how we want to live our lives? I don’t.  I want marriage to make me a better person.

Remember a relationship is a two way street. We cannot have a marriage without the other person putting in their effort as well. You are only in control of your actions, words, and reactions.  The other person has to be in control of theirs as well. There can be hard times but there can be really amazing times too if both people are willing to put in the effort to make it work.

If you would like more resources on relationships check these articles out. How a Deployment Saved My MarriageWhat Relationships Are Not5 Ways To Cultivate Positive Relationships & 5 Things Being A Military Spouse Taught Me About Relationships.

Remember you are amazing, you are beautiful, you are brave, & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!!


Megan Hall

Why You Are Your Own Worst Critic

Why you are your own worst critic., Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

Ever notice your biggest critic is the voice inside your head? It’s difficult to stay positive when there is this loud negative voice constantly showing up in your life. Our inner critic seems to show up at the most inconvenient of times whether it’s a speaking engagement or a call with a new client. The more we ignore it the louder it gets. You have to understand is why you are your own worst critic before you can handle it.

It’s impossible to really engage with someone when we don’t know them. Engaging someone we don’t understand causes us to jump to so many conclusions. Many times when it comes to our inner critic we just don’t understand her and think we are the only ones out there who deals with this. The answer is we all have it just some people are better at challenging and turning down the volume on their inner critic than others.

Why you are your own worst critic

1) You have spent a lifetime with yourself that means you know things about you that no one else does. 

2) Your experiences in life have shaped you for the good or bad. Everything that  has happened when you were younger up until now will fuel this critic.

3) This is not a conversation you can just walk away from because it’s happening in your own head.

4) When other people say what you are saying inside your head it just further validates your inner critic. 

5) Your ego wants you to be right and wants you to be safe.  That’s why when your inner critic pipes up your ego will look for all the reasons that she is right. Your ego is also more likely to focus on the negative because it’s trying to “protect” you from it. 

Does this mean we are all screwed? Absolutely not! There are many things we can put in place that will help turn down the volume on this inner critic and challenge her when she shows up. By challenging her I don’t mean try to ignore her because like a little child having a tantrum she will just yell louder. Instead we need to challenge her thinking by pointing out why she’s wrong.

Over time with challenging our inner critic and surrounding ourselves with people who don’t feed her she will learn to play nice. This doesn’t mean she will completely disappear just think of this as her growing up from toddler to adolescent. Our inner critic will learn to be on the playground (our mind) and let other people (our thoughts) have their own turn. She will still sometimes show up like “Hey I’m still here” but she will be a hell of a lot calmer and you will know how to handle her in a much healthier way.

If you need help turning down the volume on  your inner critic then put your information in the sign up link below. Remember you are brave, you are beautiful, you are amazing, and YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!


Megan Hall

Friendship is Like Dating

Friendship is like dating, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

Let’s be honest making friends as an adult can be difficult and kind of awkward. It’s not as easy as going up to someone and saying ” Hey let’s be friends”. Although we all wish it was. Friendship is like dating. It’s kind of messy and takes time but when you find the right person it works out in the end. Unfortunately it also means you will end up with some heart ache too.

Last year I had this friend who I was super close to. We did everything together. We laughed, we cried, we shared our whole life stories, but then it started to fall apart. She started pulling away from me and shutting me out. It wasn’t one of those friendships that ended and you knew it ended. It was kind of like when a guy just stops returning your phone calls and avoids you out in public. He doesn’t officially break up with you so you don’t really know it’s over until you see him with someone else. Itwas like that but I didn’t know it was over until she deleted me off Facebook.

How Friendship is like dating

  • You don’t want to tell them your whole life story on your first date (hang out). Ease them into that mess.
  • It takes several dates before you’re in a relationship (friends). Consistent time together is so crucial here.
  • Opposites attract but having nothing in common makes things difficult. Don’t just look for people just like you.
  • You have to let them know the real you or it will never work out. Lack of transparency leads to distrust and drama.
  • Not every date will turn into a second date and you won’t marry (become BFFs) every person you date.

Good news is even though building friendship is like dating it’s not exactly like dating. You won’t have to choose only one BFF. You can date (build friendships with) several people at once. Everyone you are dating can hang out and it won’t be weird. There’s a lot of similarities between dating and friendships but there is a lot of differences too.

Not every friendship will lead to that best friend (marriage) and not every friendship will last (divorce) but we can enjoy the time we have with our friends in the meantime. It’s ok to decide after some time of spending with someone that you don’t click with them. Sometimes people change, you or them, and the relationship doesn’t survive that change. Even though it’s sometimes messy, hurtful, and difficult it’s completely worth it when you find your friends.

Remember you are beautiful, you are worthy, you are amazing, & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!!


Megan Hall

If you want more information on the topic of friendship check out these resources.

Blog Posts:  Women Need Healthy Friendships & Not Everyone Will Be Your Best Friend

The Inspired Women Podcast Episodes: Episode 9 FriendshipsEpisode 68 Friendships & You, & Episode 28 with Shasta Nelson

What’s in Your Space

What's in Your Space, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

This year I made a goal to be more mindful of what’s in my space. That means the people or things that are around me. I realized that there were many people/things that I allowed in my space that didn’t make me feel good. Yet I continued to allow them into my space but no more.  Have you ever thought about what’s in your space?

Things/people either give you energy, take away energy or do a little bit of both. Ever been around someone that when you left them you felt like all the energy was sucked out of you? Those are the kind of people/things I am no longer allowing in my space. I have to be protective of my energy and so do you. Being drained of energy is just no fun.

How You Can be mindful of what’s in your space:

1) Check in with yourself. What things/people leave you feeling emptied?

2) Ask yourself: How can put space between these things/people and myself?

3) Have a conversation if necessary/possible. “Hi _____. I value our relationship but lately spending time with you has been making me feel pretty bad. I would love to change this if possible if not we will have to stop spending so much time together.”

4) Take Action. Start minimizing interaction with these things/people immediately. 

5) Spend more time with those things/people that make you feel good. 

It is important we protect our energy. No one wants to go through life feeling drained or resentful. Sometimes genuine conversations can help and other times we have to accept this is the way certain people are. There are some people I won’t have a conversation with because I know that it will cause to much drama. Having a little interaction with people/things that drain us is important.

Keep in mind these people/things may not drain everyone’s energy. This is not a time to wage a full out war on them. Instead it’s a time to protect your energy by putting up boundaries between you and this person/thing. For me there was a group of individuals that I continually felt drained after leaving their presence. I realized they are not my people and that’s ok.

If you need any help with this topic feel free to check out my article on Creating Boundaries.

Remember you are brave, you are kind, you are beautiful, and YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!!


Megan Hall

Your Mindful Morning Starts The Night Before

Your mindful morning starts the night before, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

Oh that elusive thing we all call sleep. Even though it is one of the most important functions of our body it seems to be the thing that always comes in at the bottom of our priority list. Don’t get work done during the day? It’s ok I’ll just stay up later. Want to binge watch the latest Netflix show? It’s ok I’ll sleep when I’m dead.

The problem is EVERY essential function of our body requires sleep. Everything from your immune function to your metabolism to your memory and everything in between. It’s a common misconception that our mind is still during sleep. It’s actually doing so much to help ud be our best. Sleep is a crucial piece to our physical, mental, and emotional health.

5 reasons your mindful morning starts the night before

1) Sleep deprivation affects our emotional health. Lack of sleep can alter our mood significantly and not in a good way. 

2) Sleep deprivation affects our memory. During sleep our entire day is processed into memories without it we struggle to create new memories. 

3) Sleep deprivation affects our immune system. Trying not to get sick because of that important meeting? Better be getting some quality sleep the week before. 

4) Sleep deprivation affects our productivity. We are slower at performing tasks when we don’t have enough sleep. 

5) Sleep deprivation affects our mental health. Those with mental health conditions will experience this the most. Even if you have never experienced a mental health condition you might experience one after sleep deprivation. 

Sleep deprivation can have serious effects on our personal and professional life. Sleep isn’t just important to some people it’s important to all people. Only 1% of the entire population needs less than 8 hours of sleep a night. It’s very unlikely that we are one of them.

I shared in the Importance of a mindful morning how important a good morning routine is. Your mindful morning starts the night before. Consider a good night’s sleep the pregame to a good morning routine. I know it can be difficult to know what will help us get enough sleep. That’s why I created the Blissful Sleep Cheat Sheet with the top ten tips of getting a blissful nights sleep.

It’s time for us to make sleep a priority. Remember YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!


Megan Hall

Learn & Grow Through Other People

learn & grow through other people, life coach, motivational speaker, Megan Hall

One of the best ways of learning is through experiencing something ourselves. The problem with that way of learning is it can take a long time and be very painful. Even though my life experiences have led me to being the powerful life coach I am today I still like to learn & grow through other people. Why? It saves me the time of having to learn everything by finding or experiencing it myself.

Recently I made the decision to go back to college to pursue a degree in psychology. My own experiences, healing, and growing have allowed me to learn so much about psychology already but I want to speed up the process. That’s why I am going to learn from other people. We can speed up the process by learning and growing through other people. There is a vast amount of knowledge out there and instead of sifting through it ourselves we can learn from people who already have sifted through that knowledge or had those experiences themselves.

How we can learn & Grow through other people:

1) Work with a coach.

If you can think of something you would like to work on there’s probably a coach out there who can help you. 

2) Take a course.

There are courses on a wide variety of subjects. The reason coaches trump courses in my book is you get accountability and a tailored to you experience with coaches while courses are more general information. 

3) Conferences/Summits.

I love the variety of speakers and topics that can be covered at a conference or summit. The only set back is many times you are energized afterwards but may not implement what you learn, the follow through can be lacking.  

4) Podcasts/videos. 

Again a wide variety of topics that you can hear on podcasts/videos.  These are generally free but still lack the accountability and tailored to you experience.

5) Online Communities (like Facebook Groups).

Also a generally free resource. There are online communities on almost any topic you can think of. One downfall is you might have to sift through a lot of information that’s not relevant to you before you find what you need. 

With the internet information is at our finger tips. So many people are willing to share their expertise with you so you don’t have to go learn it all yourself. There’s everything from how to run Facebook ads to how to improve your health ready for you to discover. If you aren’t sure where to start ask your friends family, or trusted advisors for recommendations.

I always tell my teenage daughter to learn from my mistakes. That is essentially what I am talking about here. You don’t have to go out and make all the mistakes yourself to learn the lessons. You can learn from people who have been there and done that. Like one of my clients said “I could have done all of this on my own but it would have taken me years instead it only took me six months!” That’s what I am talking about when I say to learn & grow from other people..

Remember YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!


Megan Hall

Resources you might enjoy:

Looking for a coach? Schedule a 30 minute connection call with me HERE

If you are a military or first responder spouse you will love 2018 Military Spouse Wellness Summit: Renew You

Tune into The Inspired Women Podcast

Join The Inspired Women Community

Importance of a Mindful Morning

Mindful Morning, Life Coach, Megan Hall, Motivational Speaker

The definition of mindful is conscious or aware of something. So what is a mindful morning? A mindful morning means we are being intentional about how we start our day so we can be conscious and aware of what’s going on while our day progresses. When we  start our day off without a good morning routine we are in reactive mode. We are reacting to everything going on around us instead of being proactive. A mindful morning helps us be proactive by taking control of situations before they happen.

A good morning routine involves doing things for you and you only. This is not answering clients emails or making breakfast for your family. This is time you set aside every morning to do things that are just for you. There is no perfect length of time for a morning routine. Some people will be able to set aside more time while others not as much. That’s why it’s just for you, you get to decide how it goes.

How to create a mindful morning routine

1) Do it first thing before checking your phone or computer otherwise you are starting in reactive mode. 

2) Find a quiet place. Whether that means you have to get up before everyone else or put the kids in front on the TV. Do it!

3) It doesn’t have to be time consuming. As little as 15 minutes every day will do wonders for your mindset.

4) This should not involve things that stress you out. This should involve things that help you relax. Try different things to see what works for you.

5) Perfection is not the goal. If you miss a day don’t beat yourself up. Instead focus on doing better the day after. 

Having a mindful morning routine has helped me go from red faced, stressed out, screaming mom to chill mom who’s able to get everything done while still enjoying her morning cup of coffee. The days I do my morning routine are dramatically different then the days I don’t. Some days I do a shortened version of my routine getting in only the most important pieces while other days I do a longer version. Perfection, like I said in tip 5, is not the goal.

It can be kind of daunting to start something new. If you have no morning routine right now you might be overwhelmed trying to figure out what to do. No worries! I have created a morning mindfulness cheat sheet to help you out. It’s completely free and you can grab your copy HERE.

Start slow with as little as 15 minutes a day. Over time you can add on and extend things as you would like or keep it at 15 minutes. This is really about what will help you bring more peace and calm into your day. You may even want to try new things as you go along. The key is to create a routine you look forward to not one that you find as a chore.

Remember YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!!


Megan Hall


Focus,  Megan Hall , Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

A couple of weeks ago in The Inspired Women Community we were sharing what our biggest struggles were and many women said focus. So many business owners and entrepreneurs have this struggle. There are many reasons we do and many of those reasons are something we can control. Focus is a key piece to good time management.

How does focus play into time management? By focusing we can be more productive and get more accomplished with less time. For example writing this blog post will take way longer than it should because my children are home and I can’t focus with their conversations going on in the background. On the days that they are in school blog posts take me no time at all but today I’ve already had to pause three times to ask them to be quiet so I can focus.

How to improve your focus

1) Find a quiet place to get things done. Ask those around you to let you have some space if necessary.

2) Minimize distractions by turning off all notifications on your phone. No vibrates or dings or numbers. You can even turn your phone on DO NOT DISTURB mode.

3) Focus on one thing at a time. Do NOT multi task. This is why having only a handful of goals like I mentioned in New Year Goal Setting is so important.

4) Brain Dump. Write down all the things on your mind before you begin so you have a clean slate to do the task at hand. 

5) Chunk out time. It’s shown working for 60-90 minutes then allowing for 10-20 minute break allows us to be most productive. 

FOCUS= Follow One Course Until Successful. When we have multiple things going on at one time we are not as productive. Creating a schedule that allows for ample time to focus on one task will allow you to get more done with less time. If possible work on that one task until it’s complete.

Sometimes minimizing distractions means we have to leave where we are and go somewhere else.  Today for example I would get more done if I had left my kids with a sitter and went to a coffee shop to get work done instead. By minimizing distractions and having a working environment conducive to creativity we are more likely to be able to focus.

Remember this is your time and you are in charge. YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!


Megan Hall