5 Ways to Practice Body Positivity

Body Positivity, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

The body positivity movement has been picking up steam lately. What is the Body Positivity Movement? According to Wikipedia the body positivity movement is “acceptance and appreciation of all human body types. It is a social movement rooted in the belief that all human beings should have a positive body image, and be accepting of their own bodies as well as the bodies of others. The movement sets forth the notion that beauty is a construct of society, and poses that this construct should not infringe upon one’s ability to feel confidence or self-worth.”

Now this is something I can get behind. I have gone from hating my body to loving my body to hating my body to accepting my body. This is the body I have and I know it will never look like the “ideal body” no matter how hard I try. I learned this the hard way when I was running myself ragged trying to achieve that body only 3 years ago. Now I realize it’s perfectly fine to have some fluff and stuff just like Winnie the Pooh.

5 Ways to practice body positivity

1) Focus on the things you do like about your body

2) Stop purchasing magazines and following people on social media that make you feel bad about your body

3) Do things that make you and your body feel good

4) Buy clothes that fit and make you feel good about yourself

5) Don’t shame/judge other women for their bodies

This can be difficult because we are inundated with unrealistic body images. The female body comes in all shapes and sizes. You can be healthy and still be curvy. Also you can be skinny and unhealthy. Body size isn’t necessarily an indicator of health. Take care of your body and embrace all it’s imperfections.

Body shame has no place in our world. A woman should never feel like she isn’t “enough”. Shed yourself of the thoughts, people, and environments that make you feel less than. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. Release the expectation of a “perfect body” and love your body for what it can do. Hell my body carried four babies. That to me is absolutely miraculous.

I would love to support you in loving your body. Join me in The Inspired Women Community. If you want to know what I don’t like about the body positivity movement listen to Episode 126 of The Inspired Women Podcast. Remember YOU ARE BRAVE, YOU ARE BEAUITFUL, YOU ARE WORTHY, & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

5 Things To Do Instead of Mom Shaming

Mom Shaming, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

It’s not only moms who are guilty of mom shaming it’s people without children too. I have to start with if you don’t have children you certainly should not be shaming moms. Like it or not as a mom this is one of my biggest pet peeves. As with most anything else it’s difficult to understand what it’s like to be a mom until you are one.

The worst mom shaming is when it comes from other moms. Momming is difficult every mom knows it. Every child, family situation, mom, etc… is different. What works for one mom might not work for another mom. There is no one perfect way to be a mom. Are there bad ways? Absolutely! But there is so much gray area where things aren’t necessarily right or necessarily wrong. None of us are perfect.

What We Can Do Instead of Mom Shaming

1) Work on ourselves. Unless we are the epitome of perfection don’t throw stones. 

2) Offer to help. If you see a mom that’s struggling instead of pointing fingers offer to help out. 

3) Be a listening ear. Sometimes we just want someone to listen to us bitch without judgement. 

4) Ask before giving advice. Maybe I do want a mom who has been there and done that to guide me or maybe I don’t. Ask first.

5) Keep in mind we don’t know everything and we don’t know their whole story. 

It’s tough to be a parent in today’s society of highlight reels and gurus. Let’s be honest with all the resources our there we learned the most from our parents. Unfortunately they too were flawed human beings. We tend to either mimic their parenting style or do the exact opposite of it. Being a mom is a learning journey. Sometimes we have things handled and sometimes we are a hot mess.

I’ve been a working mom, a stay at home mom, and a work from home mom… all have their difficulties. My children were both breast and bottle fed… some by choice and some not. The only age range I haven’t dealt  with my children yet  is adulthood. Guess what? After 15 years of being a mom I still don’t have this shit figured out. What I will tell you is none of it is a cake walk.

So whether you are a mom or not let’s stop the mom shame. No matter what your parenting choices remember YOU ARE BRAVE, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE AMAZING & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

 

Social Anxiety is Real

Social Anxiety is real, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

I know it’s hard for anyone who has met me to believe but I have social anxiety. What is social anxiety? Social anxiety is what it sounds like, it’s nervousness in social situations. Sometimes this is quite severe where people cannot even be in social situations without a full on panic attack. Other times people can function in social situations but those situations make them very anxious.

I have more moderate social anxiety. Most of my nervousness is more internal.  I can hold conversations and even speak publicly but my whole insides are a mess. When I was younger it was so much worse but now it’s only bad when I am around a lot of people who I don’t know. Through out the years there have been many things that help to minimize my social anxiety.

How I Manage My Social Anxiety

1) Saying no to attending things that I know I won’t feel comfortable at

2) Making sure I am in a good place emotionally when I attend social functions

3) Leaving early if I am starting to feel drained 

4) Taking a bathroom break or break outside for some deep breathing when I start to feel nervous

5) Minimizing my alcohol intake in uncomfortable social situation

Sometimes social anxiety requires therapy. Either way being really mindful of how we feel in social situations is very important. We can’t be afraid to say no or leave when we don’t feel comfortable. With social anxiety you may not always feel 100% comfortable so choose the situations that won’t drain you in five minutes. Maybe these are the things that you can make it two hours before you have to go home.

Don’t let this stop you from being social and making new friends or connections. Just make sure you have ample time to rejuvenate afterwards. Remember YOU ARE BRAVE, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE AMAZING, & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

Stop Tolerating Other People’s Bullshit

Stop tolerating other people's bullshit, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

Can I be real with you for a second? We tolerate way too much bullshit. Many times we do it because we don’t want to be mean or we can’t imagine what someone will say if we don’t. Guess what? We aren’t being mean and what people say about us is none of our business. That’s all about them not us. Stop tolerating other people’s bullshit.

When I was in college the first time around we read a book on bullshit. Yes there is a book on bullshit. It’s short, sweet and you can get it where ever books are sold. I haven’t read the book in awhile, like 12 years, but what I remember most about the book is how it points out that we tolerate to much bullshit. It’s not untrue. We, as a society, are so polite that sometimes we become too polite. During the process we fail to set boundaries with other people.

How to stop tolerating other People’s Bullshit

1) Learn to say no. Without excuse, without reason, without anything… No is a complete sentence. 

2) Stop spending time with people who drain you. Just cut them loose.

3) Be you unapologetic-ally. Stop pretending to be someone your not just to impress the bullshitters. 

4) Find your limit. We each can only tolerate so much bullshit in a day. Some times bullshit is unavoidable so know your limit.

5) Get real with your soul. Is this path really the one your suppose to be on?

That last tip might have thrown you for a loop. Why does the path I’m on really matter? We often tolerate other people’s bullshit because we think we have to in order to get where we want to be. Once we get there we realize this is not where we wanted to be at all! That’s because we don’t take the time to check in with ourselves and get real about where we are going.

No matter what your goals and dreams are you shouldn’t have to tolerate other people’s bullshit. It doesn’t make you polite. Instead it emotionally drains you or mentally exhausts you. That’s just not a life to live. Be merciless about setting boundaries. You only get one life, might as well make it a good one.

Remember YOU ARE BRAVE, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE AMAZING, and YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

PS You can check out these resources on boundaries: Creating BoundariesBoundary Basics, & What’s in Your Space.

Preventing Groupthink

Preventing Groupthink, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

I like to think of groupthink as the sheep mentality. It’s kind of like the way sheep follow each other and do everything together. Can groupthink be a good thing? Yes when you are working as a team and everyone is able to come to a common solution that is helpful. Where it goes bad is when individuals don’t want to or don’t feel like they can or just don’t think for themselves. This is where the word conformity comes into play. Everyone conforming to the “norm” of the group.

Diversity is what makes the world go round. Without it we would not see creative thinking or be able to advance in our technology or expand our minds. Thinking, acting, and believing the same as everyone else puts us at a distinct disadvantage. Groupthink stunts our personal growth and  makes us cookie cutter versions of each other. How boring is that? To me that’s super boring. I love to see people thinking for themselves and not going along with the status quo.

preventing groupthink starts with us

1) Diversify the people you hang out with. Don’t just hang out with people who think, act, believe or look like you.

2) Listen to opposing views with an open mind. 

3) Get your information from a variety of places. Even try getting it from new places once in awhile. 

4) Have new experiences. New experiences = new people. 

5) Question everything. Don’t be afraid to place devils advocate. 

We really need to check our belief and opinions. Does everyone around us believe the same thing? Are we closed off to opposing views? Why do we even believe these things in the first place? I had a conversation with my husband about profanity that helps explain this. I believe words are only words. We decide what power they have by how we use them. The only reason some words are considered taboo is because someone somewhere made them that way. Back in the day ass meant donkey and bitch meant female dog.

The problem with groupthink is it prevents us from thinking outside the box. Instead of questioning everything we just go along with it. In extremes this is how Nazis and cults were formed. We must be willing to decide on our own how we feel about the world. That may mean being different than your best friend or your sister. That’s ok because that’s how change occurs. Remember you are brave, you are beautiful, you are amazing and YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

Tuning Into You

Tuning into you, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

One of the biggest things that holds us back is ignoring what we really need. Whether that’s because we don’t realize it, we are too busy, or we just don’t care it’s seriously hurting us. You can be going 100 miles per hour but come to a crashing halt because you aren’t tuning into you.

Over the years you may have become disconnected with yourself. Maybe people have been telling you who you need to be, how you need to act, and what you need to feel. The problem is  you may have listened and molded yourself to their expectations.  Along the way you just lost that deep connection you need in order to thrive.

How can you start tuning into you

1) Start your day off with some you time. Give yourself at least 15 minutes of you time before checking your phone or computer or in any way reacting to the world. 

2) Recognize and feel your feelings. We get in the habit of avoiding our feelings or stuffing them away. Don’t do that!

3) Identify why you are feeling that way. What was the cause for these feelings you are feeling?

4) Take care of yourself. It’s hard to start tuning into you when you aren’t feeling your best. 

5) Tune out the unhelpful voices of other people. Listening to other people’s expectations of you quiets your own inner voice. 

Getting into the habit of tuning into yourself can take time especially if you haven’t done it in a awhile. So many of our negative feelings can be resolved by feeling them, identifying where they came from, and processing through them. The problem is we are so scared to even feel them that we never get to the processing part.

You know yourself better than anyone else. Don’t let other peoples opinions quiet your own intuition. Your intuition can guide you on the right path only if you give it the opportunity. Remember YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

 

 

 

If You Don’t Ask The Answers Always No

If you don't ask the answers always no, Megan Hall, The Inspired Women Podcast

One of the best pieces of advice my husband has ever given me is “If you don’t ask the answers always no.” As someone with a curious mind I use to allow the fear that people would judge me or think I am stupid for asking questions hold me back. How are we to know the answer if we don’t ask?

Many times we are so afraid of rejection that we freeze up and never ask what we want to. This can hold us back in so many aspects of our lives. If we only ask the questions we know the answers to how are we suppose to learn and grow? Life is full of risks and this is just one of them.

If You don’t ask the answers always no… Minimizing your risk:

1) Do your research. With everything at our finger tips it’s relatively easy to do. 

2) Build relationships. When people know, like, and trust you they are more likely to say yes. 

3) Weigh the best case scenario against the worst case scenario. Is the bad really that bad? Is it worth risking for the best outcome?

4) Have a back up plan. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket so essentially you lose everything if you get the answer you don’t want. 

5) Realize that someone’s response to your question has more to do with them than it has to do with you. Still reevaluate after but don’t take it to heart. 

It’s impossible to read someone’s mind. Unless if those are your psychic powers but even then you won’t be right 100% of the time. The best way to find out the answer to your question is ask. Use these tips to help you have a foundation to which you can minimize the risks associated with asking your question.

In all reality the worst case scenario usually means that we end up right back where we were before we asked. That’s not really not setting us back that far. Don’t give up on asking questions because you are rejected or someone is judgmental of your question. As long as your question is appropriate for the relationship you have with this person it will all be ok. If you don’t ask the answers always no and you will be left wondering what the answer could have been.

Remember YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

 

Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself

Shoulding, Megan Hall, Life Guide

I spent years and years thinking “I should be happy/successful”  “I should be this or I should be that.” but I wasn’t.  What I really needed to do was stop shoulding on myself. Many times our shoulds are developed because that’s what society says we should be feeling or we should be doing. We are torn in a thousand different directions because everyone is saying something different.

Four years ago I was at my “ideal weight”, I had a beautiful home, I was married to a man who took good care of me, and I had four beautiful children. All I could think is “I should be happy” but I wasn’t. The outside world was telling me I should be happy, hell they still say I should be happy. I didn’t feel happy, I felt empty inside. Even though only a few years earlier I had NOTHING. Literally no job, no car, no license, no house, and two kids to care for I didn’t feel happy with my life.

Why wasn’t I happy? What was the missing link? The missing link was me. I was so busy listening to what everyone else said I should think, do, or say that I left me out of the equation. I was shoulding all over my life and feeling more disconnected with each passing day. It took me years to realize that I would never have the life I wanted if I didn’t put me back into my daily life.

The only way that we can be successful, happy, and healthy is by tuning into our inner wisdom. There is not a soul on earth that knows you and your life better than you. When we tap into our inner wisdom and allow that to guide us in our lives and business we will see things shift. Are there people who know more about certain topics than you? Of course! Take their wisdom and if it applies to you utilize it. However NO ONE is an expert on your life but you.

how to tune into your inner wisdom

  1. Take care of yourself. When you feel good you are able to tune into yourself better.
  2. Take all advice with a grain of salt. Like I tell new moms, “Figure out what works best for you and throw the rest away.”
  3. If something feels “off” or “just not right” it’s probably not. Trust your gut.
  4. Be who you are every, single day. When you are authentic in your daily life it’s easier to tune into your inner wisdom.
  5. Build your tribe of people who will allow you to bounce information off of them and only help when asked to.  No “fixers” allowed. lol

It’s time for us to filter all the white noise out there and add ourselves back into the equation. You have a far deeper knowledge of what will make you successful, happy and healthy than you even realize. It’s all about tapping into your inner wisdom so you can see everything you want come to fruition.

If you need support, guidance, and accountability while you discover your own inner wisdom then join us in our next Better Together Mini Group. Remember as always YOU ARE ENOUGH!

XoXo

Megan

 

A Message of Inclusivity For All Women

Inclusion of women, Megan Hall, no descrimination

Have you ever attended an event and felt like you didn’t belong? Maybe your beliefs or how you look didn’t align with those around you? Me too! Many women I know identify as Christians.  Christianity is not something I identify with personally. There have been many times I feel like I don’t belong in those circles because my beliefs aren’t in alignment with theirs.

We all should have the right to be ourselves and have our own beliefs without being judged or feeling less than for it. Unless of course your beliefs involving harming others in any way, that’s where I draw the line. I don’t agree that anyone should feel like they don’t belong because of their beliefs, sexuality, or appearance. Just imagine if you or I were born in a different country,  different family, or  different time period our beliefs would be completely different then they are today. We would be completely different individuals. That’s why inclusivity is so important.

My message is about love, kindness, empathy, compassion, and  inclusivity because in such a diverse world there is no place discrimination. We don’t know what it’s like to be someone else because we aren’t them. Life is not one size fits all. There isn’t always a right or wrong answer to everything. This world isn’t just  black and white, it’s a whole spectrum of colors.  The time has come for us to come together as a human race and love each other as we are.

I read a comment on Facebook where someone stated that all Muslims or those of Islamic descent are terrorists.  I cannot understand how there are people who are so closed minded that they will condemn an entire group of people for the actions of a small faction. What if we were them? What if we were born in that area of the world? Do we honestly believe that we wouldn’t hold their beliefs as well?  There’s a very good chance that we would hold the same beliefs therefore experience the same discrimination as well.

In my work I meet my clients where they are and guide them through the steps to their ideal life. Why not give them all the same steps? Because we are all unique individuals. What works for one person may not work for another. My ideal life probably doesn’t look like yours. That’s OK. That’s what inclusivity is all about. Meeting people where they are. That doesn’t always mean we will understand them or agree with them. Honestly that’s not for us to judge.

Whether you are black, white, brown, bi sexual, homosexual, heterosexual, Christian, Muslim, atheist, or something that I have not mentioned I love you. Always be you! Don’t let anyone tell you that who you are and what you believe is not OK. All I ask is you please be accepting of others as well. Be kind to them. Strive to be empathetic and compassionate with everyone. Never ever let who you are or what you believe be the vehicle that makes you feel “better” than anyone else. We are all in this together.

Join us in The Inspired Women Community to get support on your journey.

XoXo

Megan

 

How I Became Brave Enough To Be Myself

Growing up I was a HUGE people pleaser. I just wanted everyone to love and accept me. Out of fear I would I would often pretend to be something I wasn’t. I yearned to just belong and little did I know I was just making myself more of an outcast. It’s really easy to be the outcast when people know your fake.

On multiple occasions this need to fit in got me in a lot of trouble. That came to a head when I got into college. When I was in college I was introduced to the bar scene. Suddenly I had all these “friends”.  People LOVED drunk Megan, the drunker the better. Pretty soon my school work and my daughter were coming second to my social life. It took me a years to realize that those people weren’t really my friends.

A few years ago after being the victim of some fellow military wives rumors and drama I realized something had to change. Why was I trying so hard to fit in with women who were just going to talk behind my back? What could I really lose by just being me? It couldn’t be any worse then what I was already going through.

By that time I had been a people pleaser for so long I didn’t even know who I was. I had completely lost myself during an abusive relationship. So much so that when I married my husband I only saw myself as a wife and a mom not a woman. I had completely lost who I was deep inside without all the labels.

How did I become brave enough to just be me?

  • I Took Time For Myself.  Before I would put everyone else first and myself last. That finally left me exhausted, burn out, and planning to end my life. When I started taking care of myself I became more in tune with who I really am.
  • I Asked Myself “Who Am I Really?”.  I dug deep on what I liked, what I didn’t like, and who I was once I stripped away all my “labels” like Mom and Wife. Who was I deep inside?
  • I Trusted My Gut. I was mindful if something felt right or didn’t feel right. This could be certain people or situations. My gut has never steered me wrong.
  • I Let Go Of The Fear Around What People Would Think. What if I offend someone? What if they don’t like me? If that happens it will not change my life at all. Other people do not control my life, I do.
  • I Made It A Point To Love Myself. That meant talking to myself in a positive manner. I started writing what I am grateful for daily. I make it a point to remind myself of all my positive qualities. I started treating myself like I was someone I loved.

There are still times I struggle to be me. I still worry on occasion what others will think and if they will accept me. I have learned that the greatest connections are formed when I am myself. That I cannot have positive relationships if I am pretending to be someone I’m not. My people will accept me for me and I am my happiest when I am myself .

Being inauthentic effects all of our lives from our relationships to our business. People can sense when we are being inauthentic, they won’t trust us when we are.  It’s impossible to create sustainable bonds because something will always feel off.  We can’t show up fully when we aren’t ourselves.

Need more help when it comes to just being you? Check out these blog posts: Trust Your Gut, How To Attract Your Tribe, &  I Once Was Lost.

Remember You Are Enough!

XoXo

Megan