How to Handle Big, Scary, Audacious Goals

Big, Scary, Audacious Goals, Megan Hall. Life Coach , Motivational Speaker

I always encourage my clients to set big, scary, audacious goals because those goals can provide a road map for us and fuel for our fire. There are a few drawbacks to these goals though. One of the biggest mistakes I see women make is trying to implement everything all at once. Another one I see women make is not breaking those goals into manageable steps. It can be quite overwhelming when you look at everything you have to do for these goals.

Big, scary, audacious goals are not concrete. They may change over time. Four years ago I wanted to be a PiYo instructor. I discovered along the way that I am not very coordinated and could not keep up with the beat. If I had held fast to that goal and kept trying I would have wasted time and energy that could be spent elsewhere trying to do something that didn’t fit me. Think about your goals as a way to check to see if you are on the right path and to guide you in deciding what steps you should be taking.

How to handle big, scary, audacious goals:

1) Only set a handful of these goals. The more goals you set the less focus you have. 

2) Break these goals down into manageable pieces. What do you have to do daily, weekly, monthly, etc… to reach these goals?

3) Implement one thing at a time. I share more about this in episode 112 of The Inspired Women Podcast

4) Check in with yourself regularly. Are you still on the right path to achieving your goals?

5) If a goal no longer resonates with you feel free to change it. 

If you start to feel stressed out, overwhelmed, or burnout around a goal that’s a sign that things aren’t going right. Perhaps you have implemented too many things. Or perhaps you have too many goals. Maybe you have not broken your goals down into manageable pieces. Whatever it might be it’s time to reevaluate what is going on.

Allow yourself the opportunity to celebrate wins regularly by creating smaller goals. If your goal is to make $100,000 a year in your business don’t focus on that big number instead focus on how much you want to make this week and how to make that happen. Your weekly goals might seem like a drop in the bucket but over time those drops add up. Then before you know it your bucket will be filled.

If you need more guidance on goals check out these articles: I’ve Set My Goals Now What & Didn’t Reach Your Goals. Remember YOU ARE BRAVE, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE WORTHY, & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

Personal Development: Where to Start

personal development, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

What is personal development? It is developing you as a person. It’s all about learning, growth, and improvement. No one knows everything , has done everything and is everything. We as humans are imperfect but that only means we have room to improve. That’s where personal development comes in.

When you start delving into the realms of personal development it can get overwhelming. There is so much information out there and so many places to find it. Some is free and some costs hundreds of thousands of dollars. It’s difficult to ascertain what’s worth it and what’s not.

Deciding where to start with personal development

1) Identify an area you want to improve and/or learn more about

2) Decide what you want to get from learning about this area

3) Find free or low cost ways to “dip your toe in” like podcasts or books

4) If you are still interested in this area then ask for recommendations on courses, coaches, conferences, etc… that you can learn more from

5) Implement what you’ve learned and discover another area of interest

If we aren’t growing we are dying. Studies have proven when people no longer have something to work towards they die sooner. That’s why we should always have something we are working towards. It doesn’t have to big or complicated. The more we know the better we do.

Set aside time every day to work on your personal development. This could be listening to podcasts while driving or reading a book before bed. It doesn’t have to be time consuming but as a little as 15 minutes a day can add up over time. If you want more guidance check out these resources: Podcast Episode & Blog post.  Remember YOU ARE BRAVE, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE WORTH & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

Nothing Is Unforgivable

Forgiveness, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

You probably saw the title of this article and thought OH HELL NAW! Hear me out for a second. Forgiveness is not about the other person. It is not about forgetting or saying what someone did was ok. It’s not even about wishing them the best on their life’s endeavors. What it’s really about is you releasing the burden that you are carrying around and allowing yourself the opportunity to heal.

Every time we don’t forgive we add another brick on our backs. Over time this burden can be too heavy to bear. It can cause us emotional and mental pain. Instead of “getting back at” the person who hurt us we are only continuing to hurt ourselves. If anything we are allowing these people the opportunity to continue to hurt us for years after they are done.

How can we practice FORGIVENESS

1) Identify the hurt or wrong this person has committed

2) Feel the feelings that come up around this hurt

3) Try identify why the person may have done this

4) Think of the hurt and say “I love you, I’m sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank you.” This is towards you not them 

5) Seek out a therapist if this wound is so deep that you cannot release it

One of the best ways I’ve found to help me heal besides therapy is empathy. That’s why #3 is so important. Having empathy does not mean we think what the person did was acceptable but we can now understand why they did it. For example with my ex fiance who abused me and shot off a gun in my house. When I looked at his childhood and how he was raised I can see where his hurt stems from. As a victim of abuse himself and growing up seeing his mom be abused as well he became a very hurt, confused individual. Instead of dealing with that hurt in a healthy manner he took it out on those around him… like me.

I have forgiven my ex for what he did for me. Does that mean I will allow him back into my life? Absolutely not. Does it erase what he did? HELL NAW! Is my anxiety around our daughter going to visit him diminished? NOPE! But instead of having hate fester inside of me and allowing me to weigh me down I am free of it. For years I allowed my fear and hate to control me but no more. Forgiveness does not mean you continue to allow someone to hurt you or be part of your life. Instead it means you are not going to carry them and that pain with you any longer. This is for you not for them.

Remember YOU ARE BRAVE, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE AMAZING, & YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

 

Ending the Stigma

Ending the Stigma, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

I remember when the first time I saw a therapist. My husband had to ask his work to leave early so I could go to my appointments every week. I remember being so worried that other people would find out and judge me. Over my life time I had heard so many people make cruel comments about people who were in therapy. That stigma is part of the reason I didn’t want to go in the first place.

Fast forward five years and I will tell anyone who will listen that I see a therapist. Why? It changed my life! So much so that I am pursuing a degree in psychology so I can help others as well. I openly share my story to help dismantle the stigma around mental health. Each time I share I hope that it will encourage others to go seek out therapy as well.

How we can help end the stigma around mental health

1) Seek out therapy ourselves. Others won’t learn just by hearing but by seeing. 

2) Share our mental health struggles openly. This doesn’t have to be with strangers but with those closest to us. 

3) Support others who are struggling by being empathetic not judgmental.

4) Speak out when we hear someone making ignorant comments about mental health. 

5) Surround ourselves with mental health advocates who are willing to talk about mental health. 

Mental health is just as important as physical health. Society doesn’t see a problem with seeking out a doctor when we have problems with physical health. It is ludicrous to think that it’s not also just as acceptable to seek out a therapist when we have problems with our emotional health. If we want to make total body health acceptable we must start here.

I am going to keep sharing my story and I hope you will as well. Let’s work towards ending the stigma around mental health together. Then perhaps more people will seek the help they need before it’s too late. If you want to hear more about my mental health journey you can tune into The Inspired Women Podcast or read Dealing With Depression and What I Learned From Being Clinically Depressed.

Remember you are beautiful, you are brave, you are amazing, and YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

 

Why You Are Your Own Worst Critic

Why you are your own worst critic., Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

Ever notice your biggest critic is the voice inside your head? It’s difficult to stay positive when there is this loud negative voice constantly showing up in your life. Our inner critic seems to show up at the most inconvenient of times whether it’s a speaking engagement or a call with a new client. The more we ignore it the louder it gets. You have to understand is why you are your own worst critic before you can handle it.

It’s impossible to really engage with someone when we don’t know them. Engaging someone we don’t understand causes us to jump to so many conclusions. Many times when it comes to our inner critic we just don’t understand her and think we are the only ones out there who deals with this. The answer is we all have it just some people are better at challenging and turning down the volume on their inner critic than others.

Why you are your own worst critic

1) You have spent a lifetime with yourself that means you know things about you that no one else does. 

2) Your experiences in life have shaped you for the good or bad. Everything that  has happened when you were younger up until now will fuel this critic.

3) This is not a conversation you can just walk away from because it’s happening in your own head.

4) When other people say what you are saying inside your head it just further validates your inner critic. 

5) Your ego wants you to be right and wants you to be safe.  That’s why when your inner critic pipes up your ego will look for all the reasons that she is right. Your ego is also more likely to focus on the negative because it’s trying to “protect” you from it. 

Does this mean we are all screwed? Absolutely not! There are many things we can put in place that will help turn down the volume on this inner critic and challenge her when she shows up. By challenging her I don’t mean try to ignore her because like a little child having a tantrum she will just yell louder. Instead we need to challenge her thinking by pointing out why she’s wrong.

Over time with challenging our inner critic and surrounding ourselves with people who don’t feed her she will learn to play nice. This doesn’t mean she will completely disappear just think of this as her growing up from toddler to adolescent. Our inner critic will learn to be on the playground (our mind) and let other people (our thoughts) have their own turn. She will still sometimes show up like “Hey I’m still here” but she will be a hell of a lot calmer and you will know how to handle her in a much healthier way.

If you need help turning down the volume on  your inner critic then put your information in the sign up link below. Remember you are brave, you are beautiful, you are amazing, and YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

Importance of a Mindful Morning

Mindful Morning, Life Coach, Megan Hall, Motivational Speaker

The definition of mindful is conscious or aware of something. So what is a mindful morning? A mindful morning means we are being intentional about how we start our day so we can be conscious and aware of what’s going on while our day progresses. When we  start our day off without a good morning routine we are in reactive mode. We are reacting to everything going on around us instead of being proactive. A mindful morning helps us be proactive by taking control of situations before they happen.

A good morning routine involves doing things for you and you only. This is not answering clients emails or making breakfast for your family. This is time you set aside every morning to do things that are just for you. There is no perfect length of time for a morning routine. Some people will be able to set aside more time while others not as much. That’s why it’s just for you, you get to decide how it goes.

How to create a mindful morning routine

1) Do it first thing before checking your phone or computer otherwise you are starting in reactive mode. 

2) Find a quiet place. Whether that means you have to get up before everyone else or put the kids in front on the TV. Do it!

3) It doesn’t have to be time consuming. As little as 15 minutes every day will do wonders for your mindset.

4) This should not involve things that stress you out. This should involve things that help you relax. Try different things to see what works for you.

5) Perfection is not the goal. If you miss a day don’t beat yourself up. Instead focus on doing better the day after. 

Having a mindful morning routine has helped me go from red faced, stressed out, screaming mom to chill mom who’s able to get everything done while still enjoying her morning cup of coffee. The days I do my morning routine are dramatically different then the days I don’t. Some days I do a shortened version of my routine getting in only the most important pieces while other days I do a longer version. Perfection, like I said in tip 5, is not the goal.

It can be kind of daunting to start something new. If you have no morning routine right now you might be overwhelmed trying to figure out what to do. No worries! I have created a morning mindfulness cheat sheet to help you out. It’s completely free and you can grab your copy HERE.

Start slow with as little as 15 minutes a day. Over time you can add on and extend things as you would like or keep it at 15 minutes. This is really about what will help you bring more peace and calm into your day. You may even want to try new things as you go along. The key is to create a routine you look forward to not one that you find as a chore.

Remember YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

Focus

Focus,  Megan Hall , Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

A couple of weeks ago in The Inspired Women Community we were sharing what our biggest struggles were and many women said focus. So many business owners and entrepreneurs have this struggle. There are many reasons we do and many of those reasons are something we can control. Focus is a key piece to good time management.

How does focus play into time management? By focusing we can be more productive and get more accomplished with less time. For example writing this blog post will take way longer than it should because my children are home and I can’t focus with their conversations going on in the background. On the days that they are in school blog posts take me no time at all but today I’ve already had to pause three times to ask them to be quiet so I can focus.

How to improve your focus

1) Find a quiet place to get things done. Ask those around you to let you have some space if necessary.

2) Minimize distractions by turning off all notifications on your phone. No vibrates or dings or numbers. You can even turn your phone on DO NOT DISTURB mode.

3) Focus on one thing at a time. Do NOT multi task. This is why having only a handful of goals like I mentioned in New Year Goal Setting is so important.

4) Brain Dump. Write down all the things on your mind before you begin so you have a clean slate to do the task at hand. 

5) Chunk out time. It’s shown working for 60-90 minutes then allowing for 10-20 minute break allows us to be most productive. 

FOCUS= Follow One Course Until Successful. When we have multiple things going on at one time we are not as productive. Creating a schedule that allows for ample time to focus on one task will allow you to get more done with less time. If possible work on that one task until it’s complete.

Sometimes minimizing distractions means we have to leave where we are and go somewhere else.  Today for example I would get more done if I had left my kids with a sitter and went to a coffee shop to get work done instead. By minimizing distractions and having a working environment conducive to creativity we are more likely to be able to focus.

Remember this is your time and you are in charge. YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

 

 

I’ve Set My Goals Now What

I've set my goals now what, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker

The New Year is here. You’re probably thinking “I’ve set my goals now what?” Looking at the big picture can be quite overwhelming.  How on earth can we possibly achieve the hings we have set out to achieve? There are so many things to take into consideration that we struggle to even begin.

It all starts with each of us as individuals. We cannot control other people or the weather but we can control ourselves. Achieving our goals starts with being mindful of our thoughts, our actions, our words, and our reactions. Are they in alignment with our goals? If not we might need to rethink what we are doing,

I’ve Set My Goals Now What: 

1) Focus on the next step. Instead of being overwhelmed by all the things you have to do just focus on the next step. 

2) Align yourself with your goals. Talk like they already happened. Think like they already happened. Act like they already happened. 

3) Learn from those who are where you want to be. They obviously did something right. Learn what they did and utilize what resonates most with you. 

4) Try something new. If what you are doing isn’t working don’tb e afraid to try something new. 

5) Get out of your own way. Release the doubt, insecurity and negative self talk around achieving your goals. 

If you need help setting your goals check out New Year Goal Setting. The most important thing about goals is to remember they aren’t set in stone. If along the way those goals are no longer serving you then it might be time to change them. This is all about you and what you want to achieve. Don’t let anyone dictate that for you.

Remember YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

 

New Year Goal Setting

New Years Goal Setting, Megan Hall, Life Coach, Motivational Speaker,

To be honest I really don’t like the word resolution. Resolutions to me become unfulfilled desires. Why do they become unfulfilled desires? We set something that’s unrealistic, we try to change everything all at once, or we set way too many of them. Instead of resolutions I want to focus on New Year goal setting.

Resolutions carry this stigma of not being accomplished. Goals however are much more tangible. We still have some of the same struggles we have with resolutions. That’s why our goal setting needs to be very intentional and throughout the year.

A few tips for new year goal setting

1) Only set 1-5 over arching goals for the year. Anything more becomes overwhelming and unfocused. 

2) Make them SMART. Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time Bound.

3) Break those SMART goals down into manageable pieces. What do you need to do quarterly, monthly, weekly, and daily to achieve these goals?

4) Put them where you can see them every day. Whether on a white board, vision board, computer screen or even review them in the morning to keep them top of mind.

5) Check in with yourself through out the year. It’s ok to change, pivot, or just decide that original goal is not for you. 

Our goals aren’t set in stone. Things can happen during the year that make us decide to go in a different direction. This is why checking in with yourself regularly is so important. Make sure to focus on setting quarterly or monthly goals as well. This can be the times you check in and see if you are still on the same path.

Don’t let this process overwhelm you. That’s why  setting up a maximum of five goals is crucial. The more goals you have the less focus you have on each one and the more overwhelming they become.  You cannot change all the things all at once so don’t forget to break them into manageable pieces. Remember YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall

PS If you need support in the New Year connect with me or join my next mini group HERE.

 

How Can We Stop Social Media From Killing Our Vibes?

Megan Hall, Life Coach, how can we stop social media from killing our vibes

Last weekend I took a day off of social media to reset. Not checking my social media feeds every hour definitely helped. I had noticed that I was beginning to get so worn out every time I check Facebook. It seemed every time I hopped on, no matter how many people I unfollowed or unfriended, I would be drained. Social media was killing my vibe. How can we stop social media from killing our vibes?

Just this morning when I checked out Facebook’s on this day feature I saw that a year ago I was posting about the same thing. I began to wonder why I didn’t learned from last year and start making social media siestas a regular event. The answer was obvious… FOMO (fear of missing out). I’m always worried I’ll miss out on something big if I don’t check social media regularly.

Social media can be addicting. Every like or comment is a dopamine hit to our brains. Because of this we literally become addicted to social media. We end up experiencing the highs and lows of addiction. The highs when we see all the likes and comments and lows when we see none. It can have an effect on our mental health.

How can we stop social media from killing our vibes?

1) Give yourself times during the day that you don’t check social media. For example you will only check social media once an hour or you check it or from 3:30-7:30pm.

2) Take regular social media siestas. Weekly or monthly take a whole day or weekend off of social media. 

3) Unfriend and unfollow those people who you feel are sucking your soul on social media. 

4) Set a limit for your social media time. For example you will only check it for 15 minutes when you get on. 

5) Be mindful of what you put out there and what you allow in your space. Like attracts like. The more negativity and drama you allow in or put out the more that will come to you. 

Social media shouldn’t be something we hate yet feel we have to be on. It’s your place and you decide what’s in it. When you feel like it’s too much step back and take a break. You’ll find you have more energy that way. Let’s make social media breaks part of our regular routine.

Social media doesn’t control you. You control it. Take back your control over it today. Remember YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

XoXo

Megan Hall