Do you ever hear it? That loud voice inside your head that tells you that you’re not good enough? Me too! After over 30 years of developing that voice it’s sure hard to rid myself of it. I don’t think I ever will.
That negative self-talk is something EVERY woman struggles with at some point in time or another. Even the most confident, well put together woman has a negative voice that speaks up sometimes. I know it’s so hard to believe especially when we are so talented at looking like we have our sh*t together all the time. We don’t. No of us do.
We are our own biggest critics because we have spent our entire lives together. No one knows us like we do. We know the inner workings of our own minds; the good, the bad and the downright ugly. Every judgment we’ve placed without ever saying it out loud. Each lie we’ve told and never shared with others. All of the not so awesome thoughts and actions we have had in our ENTIRE lives are bouncing around in our minds. It makes it diffcult not to judge ourselves.
How in the world do we combat this voice then?
Retrain Your Thoughts
- Identify your negative thoughts. Ex: I am a bad mom
- Reframe them into something positive. Make sure the reframe isn’t something totally unbelievable to you Ex: I am a good Mom
- Look for evidence that your reframe is true. Ex: Look for all the evidence that you’re a good mom
Fill Your Mind with More Positive Thoughts
- Unfollow & unfriend those on social media who’s posts fill your with negativity
- Limit your time with people who feed into your negative thoughts
- Say affirmations every morning. You can grab your free positive affirmation recording HERE.
Shut Up And Just Love Yourself Already
- Forgive yourself for all the things you have done in the past. It’s the past, you can’t go back and change it.
- Make a list of all the things you love about yourself and look at it frequently
- Invest in things that help you learn, grow, and love yourself more
That sure is a lot right? Take it one step at a time. These are the very things I have utilized to combat our negative inner voices. Do the easiest things for you first and then move onto the more difficult ones. Remember you have spent your entire lifetime feeding into this voice so it will take quite some time until it’s no longer loud and demanding all your attention.
Need more guidance on positivity and self-love? Check out these blog posts: My Inner Critic Is A Mean B*tch, Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself , & The Best Relationship You Can Have. You can also join us in the most positive, supportive, community on Facebook THE INSPIRED WOMEN COMMUNITY for more support.
Always remember YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!