If You Don’t Have Anything Nice To Say

if you don't have anything nice to say, Megan Hall, The Inspired Women Podcast

If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all. When did we stop living by this one seemingly simple rule? As children we were taught this but as adults we quickly forget. Why can’t we just be quiet if we aren’t going to be nice?

If the 2016 United States presidential election didn’t already show me that this rule seems forgotten by adults the news this week definitely did. This week US President Donald Trump tweeted that transgendered individuals would be banned from the US military. Then internet went berserk. Everyone had an opinion.

I saw some very valid arguments from both sides but what I saw more of was hateful remarks. Whether anyone agreed or disagreed with the president that did not give them the right to tear others apart. When did our difference in opinion become a platform for hate? It seems lately many people believe we all have to agree to get along.

areas where someone’s beliefs and opinions can steer them wrong:

  • When they try to push their beliefs and opinions on others instead of respecting that they have a different ones
  • When someone disagrees with their beliefs or opinions and they are mean and spiteful towards them because of that
  • When their beliefs or opinions involve physically, mentally or emotionally harming other humans
  • When they condemn whole populations of people because of the actions of one person or small faction of people in that population
  • When their beliefs and opinions are not their own but the ones of others around them

What makes this such a wonderful world is the diversity that exists in it. Wouldn’t it be absolutely boring if we all were the same? A sheep mentality doesn’t serve us in any way instead it often steers us wrong. We need a diversity to allow for learning and growth.

It’s time we check ourselves when it comes to our beliefs and opinions. Do they really represent us? If so what does it hurt if someone else has a difference in opinion? It doesn’t, we don’t have to be hateful and hurtful when people disagree with us. No one person knows exactly what is right and what is wrong.

Our beliefs, opinions, and perceptions shape each of us as individual. It’s important we have them. Without them we are like sheep following the Shepard. It’s equally important to respect the difference in beliefs and opinions we have with others. Stand up for what you believe in but don’t let it be a platform to tear others down.  Words hurt just as much a physical wounds but they stay with us a lot longer.



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