Being a mom is f*&%ing tough. Literally as I type this I am hiding in my bedroom drinking wine because I needed a break from my children fighting after they all stayed home sick from school today. Were they really sick? Who knows! I was too tired to even second guess it.
There are days I scream profanities and just want to pack my bags. Then there are days I feel all ooey gooey inside just thinking of their precious faces. Being a mom can really mess with our minds. That’s why strengthening our mindset is so important. I cannot stress that enough.
Let’s get one thing out of the way real quick before I dive into my tips for strengthening your mommy mindset. There is no perfect mom. Don’t even try to be it because it doesn’t exist. We are all messing our kids up a little bit every day. That’s ok because we are learning, our parents weren’t perfect either.
Here are a few tips to help you on your journey through mommy hood
Find What Works Best For You
I said it before there is no perfect parent. Every mom, family, child, etc.. is different which makes it impossible for there to be a perfect parent. What works for one doesn’t work for all. That’s alright because all you have to do is find what works best for you and your family.
That might take a little trial and error. The first child might be easy peasy then the next one could be a complete wild child. Totally happened to me. Then I had twins on top of those two! Each twin is completely different, one is a stubborn, sassy tiny girl and the other is a sweet, sensitive boy. All four of my kiddos are completely different!
What really matters is what you decide works for your family. Be flexible but don’t let other people make those decisions for you. Remember these are your kids.
Take Care of Yourself
You can’t pour from an empty cup. When you are constantly taking care of kids and not taking care of yourself it takes a toll. Trust me I’ve been there. Then our bodies decide if we don’t want to take care of ourselves that’s fine because we are just going to get sick. We all know moms don’t get sick days so let’s try to avoid that option.
When we feel like crap we get cranky. When we are cranky we take it out on the kids. Then we feel guilty for losing it on them. Then we beat ourselves up which in turn reduces our self care. Stop the cycle already! I understand not having a lot of time but as little as 1 hour a day for self care can make a HUGE difference.
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We are just silly think we need to do this all alone. I am not saying have other people raise your kids but having people to lend a hand in some way is crucial. This could be a girlfriend who will come over to chat when you need to. This could be a sitter who will give you a break from the kids when you need it. This could be a family member you go to for advice. Literally the options of support are endless. Key is we don’t have to do it alone.
For me I love having a mix of mommy friends and non mommy friends. They all serve a different purpose. Sometimes I just want to get together and not talk about kids at all. Sometimes I want to chat with others who get it. Sometimes I don’t care either way and just want to have fun. Find the friends that serve different purposes for you.
You can view my blog post on How to Attract Your Tribe.for more tips on how to find your people.
All in all momma you got this. If you’re authentic to yourself, take care of yourself, and have some support to back you up then you will do just fine. Don’t be afraid to take classes, read books, or even see a counselor to help guide you when it comes to parenting. There is no shame in continuing to learn because we are all perfectly imperfect. Count that as your personal development.
Remember YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!!